This was Antje’s second hypnobirth.
During her first, she experienced intense leg cramps that took a lot of her energy to deal with and really drained the resources she had available to cope with labour.
She also had some clinical complications.
Even though she and her partner managed really well the first time…she felt that there were a lot of things she would have liked to do differently.
She was also left with some fears around labour.
She wanted to make sure she was well prepared and feeling fully confident prior to the birth of her second baby…she did’t want any what if’s!
We did the three hour refresher course, debriefed her first birth, reviewed the hypnobirthing tools, spoke about adding a doula to her birth team, and generally made sure she was feeling comfortable will all aspects of birth and becoming a mother of two!
Here is Louie’s birth story, as told by his amazing mother!
I wanted to thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Here is Louie’s birth story…it is very different to my first birth story.
At 2:00am, Henry, my 2.5 year old toddler woke up coughing and vomiting. This was the first time he has vomited and all three of us got up and had a long hot shower together in the middle of the night. When we went back to bed I could feel the period cramps that I had been experiencing nearly every night for the last week. I didn’t think much of it even though they were a little bit more intense then they had been.
We got up at 6:00am and I still felt the cramps which was unusual as they had been tapering off during the day, but I ignored them as Henry was miserable and had developed a temperature and needed my attention. On a surface level, I was in complete denial that I was in labour, but deep down I knew something was different and I was not comfortable with having visitors over as planned for the morning. So my partner, Lawson, went and saw his dad for a coffee while Henry and I stayed at home on the couch.
My cramps didn’t get any stronger but were still present. I was unsure about calling Henry’s grandma but then decided it was the best option…just in case. I stayed very calm and I concentrated on my sick toddler but texted Lawson to let him know it was time to return home. He came back with his dad who didn’t know that I was in labour and we had a hard time trying to get him to leave as he really was looking forward to hanging out with us. For some reason I did not want anyone to know about the potential birth of my baby. Lawson finally made up an excuse and his dad left at noon and his mum showed up 10 minutes later to pick up Henry. Henry had a super high temperature at that stage and it broke my heart to let him go. His grandma looked at me while I pretended I was very normal and nothing was going on. When I said good bye to Henry I had a surge and just looked him in the eye and smiled while his grandma told me goodbye and to close the door – little did she know that I wasn’t able to walk or move in that moment.
The cramps were now definitely contractions and the surges were coming closer together…and I could feel the awful leg cramps that I experienced during Henry’s birth threatening too. But this time I was prepared.
I knew I wanted a birth ball in the shower and even though my shower is tiny, I squeezed it in. I was in the shower, listening to my Hypnobirthing tracks for an hour or so. My surges were less intense and longer apart. Lawson jumped into the doula mode. He provided me with snacks, played the right tracks, and gave me space.
Once I decided I could not waste any more water, I jumped out of the shower Lawson set up my next station in the bedroom. He tied a knot in my wrap and hung it over the door. He also set up my TENS machine. I moved my birthing ball out of the shower and into the bedroom, sitting on it while using a TENS machine, and holding onto the wrap. I was listening to the affirmation track (which funnily I couldn’t stand in pregnancy but found very comforting in labour) and used the breathing techniques. The combination of all these tools not only helped with labour, but also almost completely eliminated the dreaded leg cramps.
Lawson and I had lovely chats in between surges. I was so in my zoom and we felt so comfortable that we considered a homebirth for a minute!
Lawson called the student doula who recommended we make our way to hospital sooner rather than later. I felt a change in my surges and agreed that we should head in.
We got to the hospital at 4:00pm. Once we arrived we were asked to wait in the assessment room for the midwife. I already felt the urge to push but I must have seemed to calm. Lawson got a little nervous and tried to speed up the process – the midwife opened the door just in time.
She recommended a check on baby and on me, which I polity declined.
I felt very different this time around. I was in tune with my body and felt confident about my decisions. I trusted my body completely.
I could tell she didn’t feel comfortable but with the next surge my water literally popped – 4:33pm.
We were all surprised, including me!
The midwife then changed her mind about the checks and walked us to the birthing room. I had another surge while walking and even though the midwife told me to keep going, I had to hold on to the wall as my leg cramps where strong again and I wasn’t not able to walk at all. But I breathed through the surge very confidently and then was ready to move on.
Once we got to the birthing room she filled the pool however I stripped off and just leaned over the birthing ball. There was no way I was getting up again. My student doula arrived and took care of the TENS machine for me while Lawson focused on doing the anchor touch and light touch massage.
I felt so comfortable and safe with both of them next to me. The affirmation track was playing again. The most helpful tool however was putting my tongue behind my upper teeth – it really helped me to relax during my surges.
I had an intense feeling of pushing and yelled out “I am going to poop!” No one did anything and I was so worried, “I swear I just pooped why didn’t anyone do anything….”
Then I hit transition. My thoughts changed and I did not want to continue. I wanted to push my baby back in, stop the entire process, go back home.
I made deep grunting noises and before I knew it the head was out. The midwife guided my hand to my babies head and I was instantly calm. There he was. Ready to come out.
The next surge took a while. My body was calm, preparing for the last push. One more gentle push and my beautiful baby was born at 4:58pm.
I had no tearing and just two grazes. We delayed clamping and he was just so content, he did not even cry at all. Everyone that visited the room later commented on how content and relaxed all three of us were. We were discharged 4 hours later and went home.
I am so grateful for the refresher course and for your support! Thank you!